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0:11 Oh, we've got to not first as much. That was one of the things I know and I'm already conscious of it. Somebody's not not time in place to put put those words and just to drop them like it's Sir. I know if I'm drinking, then the F bomb is everywhere. Oh, I know, me too, and I and I only speak in a Boston accent. Yes, that's fine. One Girl Says Speak Boston. It's annoying to hear because what does that mean? Number One and number two, and then when I get tests like that, I start going to Boston accent, so she wants, and I get mad because it's all the expensive me.

0:55 I'm played. What's up everybody? This is big time fresh. My name is Bella Mars and I'm here today with my college buddy. His name is ricky, Rick Bross, like Rick the ruler. We're talking about that situation where there's like a like mine, kind of single mom, and there's like other people coming in and out of life and then, yeah, I don't understand. What would you mind meeting my kids? Like I'm like, I don't care, I'm not. I'm not adopting them. You're not bringing papers, right. Yeah, I don't mind. I don't mind meeting anybody.

1:40 Yeah, well, that's that's one of the now you got me on edge with that question. You know. It's like, is this one of those things where meeting my kids means take kids, this is your new dad. It's it's crazy because at the same time it's so different. I know for me personally, I'm not introed. You think anybody ever until it's like super, super serious, because I don't. It's not worth somebody getting attached, like if you're with somebody for two years, for example, that's like a connection you're making with the kids. First of all, the guy or the other person has to really, you know, think about I love this girl and she has kids, but I still want her. That's a big deal in itself. So if you go about doing that and then all of a sudden you break up that want Um kids and don't have them, you know, like that's saying. This is me, but like, like, like me, I've gotten to the stage where I haven't had a wife or a divorce and had a kid nothing. So some people are looking for that and then that's a way for them to like cheat and speed up. That ain't me. So I don't know that thought process that I never knew that was a thing. My perception is that I shouldn't feel this way because I am this this demograph. But if you're a single mom, then having a kid and somebody coming into the relationship with you, having a kid is like baggage, which I think it is for a lot of people, which is which

3:13 is whatever. But I didn't think about the other side where it could be something that people would actually want, or some guys would actually want, which I get, because that's like a big ten years, I think, from you know, meeting, marriage, whatever. Kids skip all that and I've seen situations where it's, you know, the stepparents are super involved and Um, you know, they adopt the kids and it's all that cute stuff. Everyone gonna drop the stigma about divorce and Um and and step parents and stuff, because now it's like, you know, a Stepdad isn't the old school quintes Sachel comes home and fucking beat you because he's an alcoholic and you know you're afraid of him. No, step that usually is because the biological dad just wasn't working out for whatever reason. What's not okay is when you stay together and you put the kid in the toxic in your talking between your toxic relationship. But you know, so that sucks and, uh, it's a selfish thing for the parents to do. So I think now it's becoming more, more, and I'm speaking not as a parent, and it's becoming more normal. Yeah, yeah, and it's like an almost a negligible thing.

4:31 People are calling their Stepdad's Dad, you know, and ship like that. And Uh, and really, yeah, it's just who do you see as a father figure in your life? Called that person death? I mean, for Christ's sake, you know how many girls called Me Dad? D You have you have it, and then you didn't follow through. But try that again. Okay, so we're both almost are we almost forty? No, I'M gonna say mid Thirties. Relax, and thirty six. Okay, okay, relax, I'm thirty seven. Okay, UM, single. So I don't think. I don't think. It's like I'm having a blast. I feel like it's I'm good until you know, my daughter's eighteen. I'm gonna write, write it out, Um, which is what which is ten?

5:27 Ten more years, Um, and then, you know, I'll think about it. But to your point, from earlier. How do friends with benefits even work? Because the only people that are kind of in the same stage of being single are like mid twenties, where they're still kind of they don't care, they're not looking to settle down, they're open to the idea of being fronds with benefits, that these are blankets stagent in Jamaican. You know, I'm the situation I brought up earlier was very specific. Right, yeah, okay, so generally people, this is the perception is you can be friends with a girl, which is false, I think, excepting very weird certain situations, because you end up talking them. If you, guys, ask yourself honestly, because you say, oh no, I have a girl that's a friend. If you honestly fucking ask yourself that, um is she really might don't want to hang out with her if she didn't have a vagina, tell me the answer is fucking yes, I guarantee you the bomb.

6:31 But here's the other thing, though. What does that make us? Right, friends the girl? Okay, right, but you just countered your own no, no, I said it's there. It's it's Um impossible for guys to be friends with girls. Accepting a very specific so, let's be honest. That's the reality of it. So friends with benefits are are like we're friends. We have not hooked up right, and that would be if we start hooking up right and then try to contain this level of friendship and Camaraderie we currently have. That will never happen because if you hook up, you inherently sex does that to you. What Fox up the relationship? Yeah, I agree. I don't know, and suck it up. It changes it and whether it makes it better or worse, it depends on the situation.

7:29 But Ninety five percent of the time usually end and those people not being friends five years later. You know, what do you think the main what do you think it is? If you had a pin? One of them gets jealous. Yeah, that's what I was going to say. One of one of them takes it's that's easy. One one of them always takes it serious, more serious than the other, and gets attached and then that causes problems. That's always a situation and that's that. But I think that there's different to be said with I said earlier. Well, what what if you're like truly friends and then you just you consider a one off as a favor, like you're driving over to the airport. You know, how could that be?

8:13 Well, it could be different like this way. Less emotional attached, because depending on the act it's because if you have sex with somebody, you're emotionally attached to him and then, but if you blow somebody, I don't think you'd probably be that much attached him. I don't know. I mean age is a big factor, but I could agree with yeah, we'll just like, there's a lot of letters levels. So it's so. So, how do you so? What's the difference between that and friends with benefits? So how do you not fuck that up? Well, YOU'RE gonna keep the true one off situation. Yeah, it as a favor and obviously if that person keeps requesting that favor, it's not it's turning into you know, it's a getting out of hand. Yeah, yeah, so, yeah, I thought about that the other day, but I think, like friends of benefits, the one way to find out. I don't know. You want to do me a favor? I gotta get to Florida, man, I'm all the way over here. We can if you flying me out there and then a hotel, I'll think about it. I'll take my decision when I get who's doing a favor at that point? Only put you up in hotel.

9:26 Oh, how do you like the breakers? That okay, Oh, yeah, yeah, Oh, can you do me a favor? What do you how much? Is this friendship plus? It would gradually friendship plus, any friendship plus. This is friendship. And Hey, if you're with me and I and Hey, I forgot my wallet at home. Right, we stopped at gas station. I need you to buy me a pack of smokes. Huh, well, I wouldn't buy you a pack of smokes. Hey, you buy me about and do? Is that gonna ruin our friendship? No, who cares? No, no, but it's not. Specifically, I'm not talking about me and you know, but we're the characters in the scenario. Yeah, I think of it as the mountain news. It's like, I'll get you back when you need it. Yeah, exactly. I owe you one. All right, yeah, I don't know, and I don't drink about do every day? You shouldn't. Exactly. That's a good yep, that's a good God, I am good. I am good. Put me up there with the best of the best philosophers. I really this is I'm glad Richard. I remember with your Oh my God, I'm the most amazing person. It looks like you're sweaty out there. That's hottest. Fuck.

10:37 Is Not even a wind. And then I was going to turn on the fan, but it's probably loud. Oh Yeah's almost or there. Who am I going to wake up? I'm sure your love it. They hate me. The only times that that it's called the guard date on Karens. Do you have any Karens up in your name? Were I would have seen everything that. At this point, the guard gates loved me that I drive by them all the time and they fucking wave right. But he calls him all the time, because I remember a guard gate came one time and I was just I I think it was this bike, I don't know, and I had to drain the carburetor and then put gas and so I want to make sure it works, so I started so the guys will go through it, and literally got called on that and the guard gate comes and he's like, he's like yeah, he's like, he's like if you even just like just do it quiet or at least away from, you know, this area, because and they adjusted. He's like, because we get a lot of complaints from yeah, like yeah, no, I feel yeah, and then ever since then I make sure I just panic rabbit right in front of his house every time, because you're not doing it past quiet hours, are you?

11:54 Yeah, oh well, okay, I don't know who said him on. Then are like seven o'clock pm. And plus they don't have laws here. They get ruled. They don't have rules, the laws of community respect. If I hear people out at midnight doing that ship, no, I'm not gonna call the cops, but I'm gonna go out myself and be like Yo, yeah, but then can't because it's like it's a fucking vehicle. We're gonna do it's true. So people just cant hate because I'm gonna have a lot of beats coming out of your mouth, beats, beets, because you're you got a lot of f bombs. Who Cares? We're allowed them.

12:39 No, I have to edit them out, all of them, not all of them, just most of them. Well, usually if there's a lot, especially together, then usually I'm not saying anything that that worth no real cut completely, you know, because I that's one thing I hated was all the F bombs that I said but when I say I'm sometimes I just nail it. So the ones I nailed stick like a gymnast. You better not beep, you know. Oh, I know exactly what we're talking about actually. So, Oh, you do. Okay, this is that scenario where I want to punch you. Yeah, that's why I'm glad you're not right next to it. You Know Me. You should be me too also, because I've been looking to punch somebody and he's really been around. Sure, what is that? What the kids are calling it these days? Punching, punching, Gross Punch you, like punch your face, like I pretty sure you would jump because of comments like this. Okay, but you love it. It fires me up and I think it also makes me laugh.

13:52 Yeah, I get fired up a lot lately. I'll tell you right now when I'm fired up about. I have on youtube like day because it's on my computer and I just let it play or whatever, and I've been watching queen videos, like the band queen. You know who queen is, right. Yeah, all of these kids are just, you know, are finding out Bohemian rap city and they're like, Oh, does this guy write his own songs? That's been happening with every like and it's I'm such an asshole for being like this and I am recognized that I'm a Dick. And it is what it is, though, because that there's no appreciation for the actual art of music and the people who came before to make it what it is today. Somebody said, Oh, I thought it was Bohemian rap city.

14:48 No one knows. Well, I mean, in their defense, it sounds like it, it is, but it's not. But like you know, so on the tip off, I think you're gonna to your therapist. Okay, I'm gonna be honest. As your friends, I feel like there's something more going on. What's going on? No, because I'm I have a very thing. Is My favorite band and I have a very strong affinity for Freddie Mercury and he's had the biggest impact on music in society, more than you know, Madonna or whatever. So for people to not know who they are and to not know their songs, it's me. This is me being an asshole and I know that. No, it's not, because I get the same I feel you. You know, Queen's the first album I have our owned. Really, yeah, I feel you. But, Um, you can't blame these people. They don't know this is when, this is they were if we were listening to Queen, we were listening to Oldies, like if we were listening up in Buddy Holly. You know, I think I'm I'm more upset this. Fact is I'm getting old and maybe I should just look at it from that perspective, like we gotta relax a little bit here. I'm fired up. What isn't music to chill you out? Yeah, but right now I'm just upset. I feel you. In all seriousness, I know what you're saying. Everybody's ignorant to actual music, where it came from the roots of what they're listening to auto tune. All I hear is, Oh, don't worry, we'll fix it in post. There was

16:21 no post back then. There was no digital recording. How to record on a tape and then over dubbed, like it's just striking me crazy, and it's nobody's fault. It's really nobody's fault, and I used to be okay, here's a good example. I Dj, do you know what? You know that and I only did vinyl and because I feel like if you knew how to scratch vinyl and mixed vinyl. You actually know how to fucking do the art of Dj whereas the computer stuff that was out, it was automatic, right, spoke it up for you, would put it at the draw for you, whatever. Yeah, and it took no skill. So it was just pressed play and go. And I'm like, you know what, that's stupid. But that was me being ignorant to the Times. Because, guys, what, if you want to throw a party now, they're gonna hire the person with the electronic equipment, not the stuff, because it's not a scratch battle. You know, it's just like so sometimes you're gonna embrace the change, but it's hard. So what, when we come from what we know and what we like and what we're have an affinity for, what's that like? Nostalgic? What we're nostalgic for? I feel yeah, I know food fighter said they made this comment maybe like five years ago at this point, and they said, you know, they record as a band, you know, not like individual parts, but they record as a band and as a whole, and it's not it's it's they try to say as authentic

17:53 as they can to the whole process of what they did back in the nineties. But that's the only that's that's it. That's all I can think of right now. Get over it, anyway. Okay, I'm over it. Rands over. I'm not over it, but no, it sucks. It's sad. It is sad because I what came on the radio the other day, if not yesterday, two days ago. was six, nine or not. You're not on the radio, but on my spotify, right, yeah, Dun cloud something, and I'm like, and even he in an interview, was like yeah, Bro, all I say is like, have you listened to my songs? All I say that. See what what he's like that. I'm not saying anything, BRO, and I'm like, I know, but it was. That's that's one of his songs comes on and I'm just like this stuff fucking disgrace to everything. But I mean, okay, the throwing money at these people, what the fuck? You know what I do? I do you appreciate him for telling that truth? He's like, I know, I'm a ridiculous yeah, I think I like him, but for but like, let's just talk about the quality of music. Like,

19:26 Oh God, off his music. I mean fun me, but he obvious he had a great marketing ploy and ship yeah, that's all it is today. And so a lot of the problems that they had back in the day with Queen, when, you know, the management company was making all the money and they didn't see a dime and they were starving and stuff. That problem has not been solved. That happening with Queen. It happened with in sync or whatever. But, like, how do we fix that? You know, it's sad. You don't, because it's okay, it's music. Is Not a burning man event. It's not for pleasure, it's for it's business. Okay, music is business. If it was for pleasure and it was for like, okay, the orchestra is music. Is Music based on talent. They get the best violenist, the best people in their craft and you know, I'll never understand any of the stuff they do, but you know, they do incredible things and but they they're none of them are millionaires, but but they probably enjoy you know what I mean, right, and they enjoy it. And that's the thing. Like they and they are the people that enjoy music and harness it and love it like we do. These people. You gotta look this way. You're gonna wear this, wear this and you need to your yeah, know, that's that's what they do, that's it's a business. Jimi Hendricks up and they were told to do that.

20:52 That's how they are, that's who they are. That's you know, Jimmy Hendricks played the left hand and guitar, bore the scarf around his head. And now everyone's like whatever their manager, whatever their stylists, says, um, because it's more of a business now. You know, back then it was like wishy washy, and then you had superstars like Hendrix, because all the the times too, it's like after no, and he's he's all about peace and yeah, everyone's tripped and they go see Hendrix. He's amazing. And now everyone loves hendricks. So now people, I. can make money and bag money here. So now you get the vultures, you know.

21:33 And Yeah, current musicians from like the nineties. I guess. How do we solve it? Before I forget, not here's how we solve it. We we provide financial literacy to the artist, because, guess what, the NFL in the I don't know if other sports places are doing it, but the NFL is requiring the rookies to take Um. I think it's two semesters of financial literacy. Yeah, that is so smart. It's an awesome move and I think that that's the way that because then pick and choose their deals and see which ones you know, they won't get fucked exactly. If they do, it's their own fault. At least they'll know what they're getting into. So I think financial literacy, because we're not going to change the companies, so we're gonna change the people, the infl yeah, and I also think this apply. This concept should apply to whoever gets voted into any kind of office politically. They should take a test on what the first ten amendments are. That's it. What are the amendments? Take a little quiz.

22:41 What's an amendment three? Amendment four? We all know what amendment one and two are, but what's the rest of them? I don't I don't know exactly. Political politicians need to know what they're talking about, because right now they're saying, oh, they're gonna take our guns. No, Bro, we can't. It's not that we're not gonna take your guns. Read the Damn Constitution before you go out and say all these things. If everybody read those who is currently holding office and the craziest they have to pass that test first. If they don't pass that test, that means they don't even care. You know what I mean, like if you want to be an audience defending the government, tests right in school and ship. And if they pass another one, doesn't mean they're gonna behave, because the reason they're not.

23:26 But if they don't pass do you think right now Donald Trump would pass? Yeah, the test, you're you're kidding me on what? On the first on the top ten, the amendments of the Constitution? Yeah, yeah, I think most of the people would know. Absolutely not. I disagree, wholeheartedly disagree. Well, okay, the point is, even if they don't know them, if they were going to have to take a test, a bother them? They just study them, know them, pass the test and then my point is, if they know them or if they don't know him, you're gonna get the same outcome. It would be the level of effort. I think a lot of people would how much effort did you put into memorize and just a few things to pass the tests at school? None, okay, ten minutes could study. Well, it would show a lot, because I'm sure there's it wouldn't show that much. What would show a lot. Is this is they're gonna have a law in place where this is what Warren Bobby said. I act and and and I'M gonna paraphrase it wrong, but it's something like this. People in the in the in the in government, should only be able to keep their jobs, probably this. They get fired if their policies end up putting us in debt or losing US money.

24:49 Okay, then everybody would shape up quick because they wouldn't have because what they're doing is acting and self interests. They know what the funk they're doing. There's every there every I can't even get into it, but everything they're doing right now is not in the public's interest or what the public wants. Politics a game and it's a zero sum game in my kin, and I feel like don't matter whose president, don't matter nothing. I agree. Yeah, it's gonna Happen and it is what it is, and I think there's no way to disprove that, because you can't get in the time machine and pick someone else and they say, Oh, I told you that would happen. You know, they can say whatever they want, but it's not happen.

25:29 You don't even want to go here with me. But look, I don't I know. Everything was fine when we were youngsters, Um, and now they're crazy. So, yeah, I'm starting my own country. You fix a problem, you get to make a law, but it has to be approved by, you know, cabin I thought about moving like I feel. I mean, I'm a coster RECON citizen. So did you know that? I said I'm a cooster reconsider since so I can where where you're gonna move? Let's be honest. Costa Rica, San Jose, Costa Rica, because they're okay, so down there. No, there's gonna be a civil war here. And like, Oh my God, Dude, are you?

26:15 Are you of America already says that there's a civil war coming, but I'm saying like, people are gonna go take unto the streets. For Real, that's already had. That's happening every day. You're not realized that? No, I realize that, but I'm not talking about how it is today. I'm talking about no, there's not gonna be red coats and blue coats. There's just not. It's not gonna be a civil war like that. Ever. and Um, we are in a civil and a civil war where a civil divide. Yeah, and that's getting worse. But I don't think that's what that's that's my plan. That's not by accident. That's why I refused to feed into it and talk to people. I feed into it because I think I watched too much news, because I just get so stressed out.

26:59 I want to for Congress. I'm running for president, Kennedy hair and I'm Kennedy, good looking, Massachusetts, Massachusetts. I'm a candidate. I'll be no, I want to be president. You can be vice present or CO presidents. I refuse to report to you. That's facts. You ain't even reporting to me, sweetheart. You'RE gonna report to like the person that reports to the person that reports to me. After that comment's fuck, you just got fired. Actually, alright, I want to work with you anyway.

27:40 You're you're the worst. I can't you want that bunch. They want to Luke in your house. Okay, okay, so you're in the music. Let's do this real quick. I played this game the other day with somebody. Um, so it'll be for each of the the decade. What is your favorite song from this whatever decades? And it can be a guest, because I don't sometimes it's sixties sometimes it's like Seventies. You know what I mean? M Hm. So, so, starting with right now, who's your favorite artists? This is not gonna go well because I don't have one.

28:22 Yeah, thanks for ruining the game. No, I'm not ruining it, would be playing it. You're saying you don't listen to any music right now. Is that? Is that what I said? Or did I say I don't have a favorite artist? Shut up, man. Well, no, I can't remember. What did I say? Yeah, that's right. The second let's say you want to be a podcast list all right, Um, what about right now? I'm back on Queen. Yeah, you're doing the study and research. Yeah, I know, but I mean when I play the guitar, it's different, like I like to play. Certainly. Oh, do you watch? Do you watch that stranger things or no?

29:03 Yeah, but I haven't gotten. I've stopped after a season, fucking one and a half. You don't like it. After two I didn't like and I'm just over it. Just stick to four. I'll fill you in. There's a recap to every season and it's way different. It's this one's more of a horror movie versus the other ones that were like well, there's a monster tracing alien movies and monster movies, the ones that have real good build ups. They need to have a good monster or else it's ruins the entire movie. Yeah, like it's happening and I think it's like a serial killer and it ends up being like, Oh, an ancient curse, and I'm like, alright, Sonny, I'm back, come back from the other okay.

29:47 So I think we would like season four because the scariest part about it is that it gets people if they have issues that they haven't dealt with yet. The UH, his name is whatever, the Bekna, is like this really scary person that feeds off of feeds off of the people that have emotional issues that they need to deal with. So like one kid felt really guilty that he was in a car accident with his friends and the car was burning and he didn't really kind of help um so that they took him kind of out of consciousness and they killed him in real life and in the I don't know, you just have to see it, because it breaks me out, because I'm like do I not have I like when they were just in the arcade and the monster was coming, and now it's too involved you know, like alternate universe, upside down, downside up, and this that all the kids are growing up. You know what, this weekend I watched season one through three so that I could just just remember it all, because there's so much. They have one more season left, so I just wanted to make sure that I pick up on everything. They are so adorable when they start getting into, because people are telling me to get into it was trailer Park Boys. What's that on Netflix? What is it called? Trailer Park Boys?

31:17 Yeah, that's pretty funny. Yeah, because one of the guy's name is ricky. So everyone's like, Oh, reggy, Oh yeah, you like smoking weed, you like smoking. I go oh, yeah, there's there's one about Canada that's kind of like that style. It's on Hulu, though, and I think you would love it. I think you would think it's pretty hilarious. Um, I gotta I'll figure it out. You Have Hulu. Maybe I got it all right last time. You did most of the talking, I think this time, but pretty even. That's why I tried to scale back, because I don't like myself. I don't like I don't either, but I gotta get used to it. Now. We're never really huh. What are you gonna do after this? Jack off to your Avatar? I don't like him. Appreciate the honesty. More like that.

32:13 What would you say I was? I was I was raised not to be a liar. No, I don't know what am I gonna do. Actually, I do know what I'm gonna do after this. I'm gonna Watch sort of trailer park boys. Well, I got some good fucking ship today at the dispensary, so I'm gonna roll one up, roll a hog leg up right and then go into outer space and then, uh, watch an episode trail park boys and then wash up and go to bed. Okay, what gross? Okay, so if you, if you will jump on board with stranger things, which just sounds like you won't. They have those options where you can watch for somebody else, you know, you can like, you can like a sink it up to where there's an option. They're like, Oh, this is a watch party, and then the people can get on that watch party. I like your red headphones, by the way. Thank you. They're beat spy DRE. They're very you right now watching panic at the disco on TV. He's a really good singer, that Brandon Urie, did you ever listen to panic at the disco? No, isn't it panic at the disco? Really can necessary to get the apt up in the middle of your band name at the discobout? How wham? Did they have a Pham One of those bands? I don't know. I think so. I

33:43 think you need to go to bed. Maybe it that was an album cover. Uh. Queen is the is the thirty third most streamed artists as of today. Anyway, I could say you're you care very much and you're very interesting. First of all, I don't really know who. Damn well, thank you for joining me on this episode, episode number two, I think. Thanks for having alright. Alright, thank you, sir. Signing off. I'll talk to you sooner than later. Bye. Right, okay, I'm shutting this off. Thanks for listening. I'd be like what you heard.

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